Being Faced With Challenges
At times, it feels like you’re the only one going through what you’re going through. Picture yourself in an ocean, nothing in site, other than water. At times, when you’re in the ocean, the ocean tends to pull you in. You begin to sink into the ocean. When you’re aware of the depth of the ocean, fear may arise, because you know the deeper you go, the harder it is to breathe. When you know this, and you begin to sink into the water, there’s two things that we tend to do.
Fight or Flight Response
Just like an animal when it feels threatened, it either runs away or it attacks. What we do is we either suppress and avoid the situation and our emotions or we try to do everything that we can to get rid of it. We try our best to get back to the surface. We panic. We know what can happen and we don’t want it to happen. We’re resisting. We try our best to get back to the surface. At times, you may be able to get back on the surface, but that’s just temporary, because eventually you’re going to get pulled into the ocean again. You’re going to have to fight your way back up there.
Learning to Let Go
In order to be where you want to be, you have to accept where you are. If you’re sinking in a ocean, you have to accept that you’re sinking, and then surrender to it. In order to stay afloat, you have to let go, you have to stop fighting. Naturally, you float back up to the top. I’m realizing and seeing how effective letting go is, as well as how powerful it is. I’ve mentioned this in the past, but I’m really coming to the realization of it. The more I grow, the deeper I understand what I already know and the more able I am to apply it.
Challenges are like quick sand. If you find that you’re being pulled into the sand, fighting your way out only brings you in deeper. The best thing is to stop fighting, to relax, to calm down, and then you can slowly pull yourself out. Without struggle.
The Struggle Is Real and Necessary
The past few days have been tough. It’s been really hard. So many things have been coming up, stacking up, heavier and heavier, more weight being added to my shoulders. The more I realize, the more able I am to carry all of this, and eventually let it go.
Just like when working out, if you’re lifting weights, the weights are difficult to lift up. They’re not going to be light. They’re going to be heavy. You struggle to lift the weight, but once you lift it up, and once you do your set, once you pull yourself up when doing pull-ups, once you finish, you’ grow stronger.
First, acknowledge what you’re going through. Accept it, and then surrender to it. Then, watch as you grow as a person.